LOVE ME FOR NO REASON

I sincerely hope that as you read this, you would understand or at least get an iota of understanding of what I hope to portray in this piece.

In this twenty something years I’ve walked on earth; I’ve come to terms with some certain truths about this love issue, whether platonic as friends or as lovers, or as acquaintance or even family. But these truths stare us in the face everyday, yet we hardly acknowledge them. Let me explain.

I was speaking with a friend of mine some couple of days ago, and she made a statement and I quote: “God loves us, even when we have nothing to offer, He still loves us. We have nothing that attracts him to us, yet he still loves us”. It struck me and got me thinking. I once saw a picture message of a girl who fell in love with a guy because of his afro hair, but after he barbed his hair to the scalp, the girl started complaining that he was no longer the guy she fell in love with, and soon left afterwards. Don’t love him because he’s hyperactive and would crack your ribs with laughter anytime he’s with you; don’t love her because she knows how to twist words and churn out articles that’ll get you thinking, laughing or crying as the case maybe; don’t love him because he can play football better than his peers, don’t love her because she’s got the best voice in the church and can pitch better than anybody you’ve seen alive, don’t love him because he’s quiet and would always keep to myself, don’t love him because he’s cute and handsome or because she has a nice dress sense, don’t love her because she’s got a nice body shape and nice hips too like that of coke bottle, don’t love him because of the mounds of muscle on his tommy called six packs, don’t love him because of that car, don’t love me for any reason.

You see, when that car is no more there, your reason for living him is gone; when that voice is no more there and she can’t run music scales like she used to, your reason for loving her is gone; and when the shape is no more there, when all that meets the eye is fat, more fat, much more fat, so goes all the hopes of your love for her; when those packs are gone from his belly and only fat remains, your reasons for loving him is gone too; when those nice clothes she wears are no more because she’s very very rich even to afford a 3 square meal and can barely take care of herself, your reason for loving her is gone; when she can no longer get you thinking with her articles because she stopped being inspiring, your reason for loving her is gone; and when his smile is gone, and he can no longer make you cry with laughter, make you clutch your ribs with laughter, make you gasp for air with laughter, so goes your reason for loving him too. Love me for no reason, love me because I’m me, love me without any clause or condition attached, because when it’s no more there, we resolve to saying “you have changed, you are no more the somebody I used to know…etc”

Learn to love that friend for no reason, learn to accept the person because he/she is who he/she is and not because of some attributes they possess. My father in heaven loves me for no reason, that’s why I have learnt to love you for no reason too.

#LoveMeWithoutClause

#LoveMeWithoutCondition

#LoveMeForNoReason

#Gen. Sam

The Checklist

My phone has been getting unnecessarily hot these days, and as such, has resulted in my battery draining a lot faster than normal. I couldn’t keep carrying my charger in the bag everywhere I go, so I decided to find out what was wrong. In the background, were unnecessary applications running on its own accord, applications and games which contributed little or zero percent to the efficacy of my phone, and which, more annoyingly was draining my battery power. I force stopped this applications, and now, my phone power consumption is back to normal; occasionally, I would go back to my app settings to check which application wasn’t contributing to my phone’s well being, and I would discard it.

LESSONS LEARNT:

Socrates once said that a a life which is not regularly examined is not worth living. Once in a while, there’s need for us to pause, have a sober reflection , go through our friends list and see who is who. After I had stopped being part of the crowd and started being who I was meant to be, I came to realise that there were some particular group of friends whom after haven visited, I felt drained and empty, I felt so out of place; I realised these ones, at every conversation added not even an iota of positive thought/influence to me. These ones kept draining my purpose battery power. They were my friends, some, childhood friends, some, I met as I grew older. And on the other hand, I noticed that there were some friends, whether older or peer, who at each conversation, something meaningful was added to my life; I realised that I kept on looking forward to meeting these friends, I realised that I looked forward to spending much time with them even though I wasn’t getting any material thing in return. Spending time with them shaped my thought pattern; my ideologies and philosophy about life changed; and it dawned on me these friends were playing alot more positive role in my life that I could care to admit.  So in other to preserve more battery life, I started curtailing the company of friends that I allowed into my circle, friends I spent much time with; I discarded the ones who kept draining me; I opened my arms to the ones who brought out the best in me.

You see, there are certain friends in whose company you would always see nothing but the negative part of you; friends who will always bring out the worst in you, and you’ll keep wondering, “am I this naughty, am I this wild, am I this purposeless?” And there are friends, in whose company you would always see yourself improving, discussing multi million ideas, discussing live changing projects, analysing and debating issues that matter. I would always tell my friend Kristiana Imeh, that the day I stop adding positively to your life, the day I stop being a positive influence; that day, know that I’ve outlived my usefulness to you; that day I stop being your friend.

So please, like I do to my phone, always discard the applications (friends) that keeps draining you. Though that doesn’t mean that you can’t reach out to them and be an agent of change in their lives; but in the process of doing so, don’t get dragged down in the same pit you laboured to crawl out from.

#AWordIsEnoughForTheWise

#KnowYourFriends

#Gen. Sam